Because family is too close and intimate, commonly the worst in each other is brought out and allowed to fester within each other. While public friendships and relationships of all kinds have an air of indifference, it’s also because of this distance that nothing is said that hurts you emotionally. Really family can, has a big chance of, be some kind of hell.
Family has always been based on blood but as I see with most people, they would trade in blood relations for a family based on common values and goals. It’s too common to see parents think they’ve supported someone because they are paying for all of it, when support is largely not money. Support is the foresight to give up impulsive words to replace them with the sentences that encourage people and give them their fair share of trust. Too often I see parents as leaders thinking by giving orders to do homework or whatever’s productive people’s first instinct is to follow and obey. Parents think they already know the troubles facing their children while they don’t know yet instruct solutions that divorce themselves from the problems. Sure they’ve gone through and survived their own adolescence, but it must be repeated that everyone is different in their temperament though the props and the human body are the same. Meaning because of different temperament and a different value system that assigns values differently, how people organize their lives are often opposite to each other, conflicting, while the goal is the same to live their lives with responsibility and a sense of their own abilities and potential always in sight.
There is more than one way to skin a cat. There is more than one way to live a human life and live out a disciplined routine. Schedules emphasize the space-time part of living but must be supplemented with a good grasp of one’s own weaknesses and a very active cooperation with the weaknesses constantly thinking of solutions to one’s own problems. It’s said to be the most free, and have the most freedom in the context of a human life, one requires to first learn discipline. That’s in the form of a schedule or a routine with set times in the day to do specific things like eat and sleep and work and play. The freedom is within the framework of a disciplined schedule or routine, then people have the freedom to do more or more important things.